Born This Way

August 10, 2013  |  By Nwabisa Kwinana, South Africa


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“God made Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve”. How many have you heard that saying?

Realistically though, how many gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people have you come across? From the beginning of time till the 21st century, homosexuality has changed and grown.  It’s no longer hidden behind closed doors or done in private places.  People are no longer afraid of what the public might think or say.  More than ever people are starting to show who they are, their true colours.

Yet, what happens when you are in a society where people are closed minded, with dogmatic values in mind; and a background where these type of issues where never discussed or you live in a place where people think that all of this is plain and simple witchcraft?

“Having a relationship with someone of the same sex should not be allowed,” said Sabelo Mtyela from Khayelitsha, CapeTown .

Violence against lesbian women is rife, and on the increase.  These women are raped by men who say that they are correcting them, showing them who they really are.  Stupidity! How does forcing yourself onto a woman translate into showing her who she really is?

God might have never made Adam and Steve but I do know that he wants us to respect women like he would respect his own mother.  We should adopt the mentality that we as humans should not be put in a box.  People need to realise that we are all one, that these things do happen is our society.  We are different in every way, including our sexuality.

“We don’t have a lot of information or even educated at schools about homosexuals, so some of us are still left with the knowledge that our parents have or gave us,”said  Robin Titus, a learner from Portlands, Cape Town.

In many religious places, homosexuality is considered taboo and people who might be different to what is expected are discriminated against and in other parts of the world even killed.  Is killing a human being `curing` who they are, would it make a difference?  How bad is bad? Pointing fingers and joking around about it might be funny but when it gets to a point where beating is involved, where do we draw the line?

“My religious beliefs are very much against homosexuals but I`ve personally accepted that it’s there and it does exist,” says Amanda Classen from Sea Point High School.

Certain people live in fear of their own community, the very people that should be supporting them.  In Khayelitsha, a settlement on the outskirts of the Cape Town Metro, a group of young men took turns raping a lesbian woman, eventually killing her. A gay club owner was killed in Cape Town; the murder was allegedly motivated by his sexuality.  These hateful crimes are happening throughout South Africa and the rest of the African continent. In the DRC a man was beaten almost to death by villagers; he did, however, manage to escape.

We live in a world filled with so much beauty, compassion and caring. Yet, so much of it is reserved for those considered to be ‘normal’ or the people that fit the mould society has created for them. For us to truly transcend our history of violence, intolerance and prejudice we have to accept people for who they are. There is so much still to do in lieu of repairing a world torn up by discrimination, war and environmental decay…why do we still waste our energy on these hateful actions?

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